So it is the dawn of a New Year, 2015. Last year in 2014 I recently turned eighteen. I am now legally, by Australian law, an adult. Amazing right? How surviving eighteen years legally entitles you to be an adult, capable of making life changing decisions such as deciding your career, smoking, drinking etc… The irony is that a couple of months ago you had to ask for permission to go to the bathroom.
So seeing that I had to make crazy life decisions at the age of eighteen with absolutely no clue on what to do, I obviously had some regrets about my decisions last year, so here is a letter to the eighteen year old me.
Dear Eighteen year old me,
Congratulations on surviving eighteen years! I know you’re shocked that you’ve survived this far right? See? Life can be hard but it does get better. I know that you’re scared of the adult life, making all these decisions based on some mark or rank (whatever the ATAR is) but don’t worry about it. You’ve survived high school, and now you’ll do fine in life!
Now to other more important matters at hand… Like making friends in uni… Yes I know that being the nerdy, socially awkward being that you are, you’re feeling freaky and scared about making new friends in university. But don’t worry too much. I know that you’ve heard it a million times but everyone in first year is usually in the same boat as yourself. You should go out more and make more friends. Don’t be so insecure about yourself. You may have your faults but you also have a lot of good things about you. You are kind, a great listener and a wonderful, loyal friend. You have much to offer in any relationship.
And he who should not be named… Yes him. So this year you decided to go cold turkey until the end of university and all of a sudden you decided to go and talk to him. Step away from the keyboard. I repeat step away from the keyboard. He is only going to hurt you again. He only wants to use you for sex, he’s merely using you as a tool. You need to man up and learn to cut him loose. He will only use and use you again until you are nothing, until you are just an empty shell with nothing inside of you. Save yourself the shame and pain and get out of there. I know it’ll be hard and tempting but you’ll thank yourself for it.
Healthy choices and healthy living. You did do rather quite well this year in terms of keeping healthy, you kept your activity levels up and you did try to eat healthy this year, so good on you! However don’t slack off, towards of the end of the year you slacked off and you put on weight. Keep up the good work and don’t be tempted by the food. Keep up your motivation to exercise.
Religion… I know you haven’t thought much about it, but do think about it. The irony is that he who should not be named did bring you closer to God and religion and got you thinking about it. However you should do more about it than think. Try and do some of his suggestions (never thought there would be a day where I would listen him).
Overall you had a good year. There were many regrets and things you could have done better last year but you pulled through and changed. Time to conqueror this year, and I’m sure you’ll do even better this year.
Sincerely, your soon to be nineteen old self